Reported by Jes Hovanes
Fantasizing about being peed on during sex is not normal but sex on the beach is ok – according to a new study.
The study was published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine and contains some interesting statistics about what people fantasize about, but I am seriously concerned by the authors’ decision to categorize any sexual thoughts as ‘normal’ or ‘abnormal’.
Isn’t this the kind of thinking that leads to all types of discrimination and harm?
People are turned on by all sorts of things and some of those things are more unusual than others, but that does not mean that they are not normal.
It wasn’t that long ago that homosexual fantasies and behaviours were considered ‘abnormal’ in both the scientific literature and in culture.
With so much sexual violence happening in our culture and around the world, does it really matter if some people choose to willingly pee on each other, or dress up as plushy toys, or role play, or any of the many other uncommon practices people do in bed so long as everyone is willing and no one is getting hurt?
These kinds of activities do not hurt anyone. They are practices that are undertaken by consenting adults, or fantasized about by people that do not intend to actually carry them out.
What can hurt someone though is a category called ‘not normal’. This categorization can lead to medicalization, stigmatization, and violence.
In this google map, Langara Voice reporter, Lukasz Jonca, put together a list of fetish shops for the savvy shopper.